Thursday, September 11, 2008

Thoughts and Advice as the Big Day Approaches

So today I came across this cute little blog, Pretty Bride . As I was scrolling thru her past posts, this one caught my eye and hit home with me:

"Union" by Robert Fulghum
"You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry.

From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same."

Wow. Ten days, friends. This is when you realize that the little details don't matter so much. No one is going to know that you spent 4 hours hand tying the centerpiece vases with ribbon, no one will remember the candy bar that you did/didn't have, and the programs and invitations that you spent hours stressing out over will all be long gone. In the end, the simple truth of the matter is that you are married. And that's all that matters.
Words cannot describe this surreal feeling, knowing that our wedding is only 10 days away. I am excited, full of giddy nervousness, and just in a state of disbelief that the moment that I/we have been waiting so long for is almost here.

The pretty picture to accompany this post is one that you might have seen before because I have posted it before. But I post it again because it is one of my most favorite images that I have ever seen since I started blogging. I know that you cannot really see either one of the couple's faces, but you can see the emotion and love between the couple. Are any of my readers getting married September 27th?! I would love for you to introduce yourself/leave a comment!
Little words of advice for those of you that are nearing your big day!!
These Little Moments - Advice from Clink
Words of Wisdom from 2000 Bride via Big Sur Bride


Adrienne said...

Chick you are killing me....haha. I stumbled across that same poem and actually want to use it as a reading. I love it!! However I wasn't sure if the Catholic church would allow it or not since it is not out of the bible, I still need to look into that. Also, I second the motion of that amazing photo....LOVE IT!


Tiffany said...

WOW!!! Thank you so much for that! I'm also getting married on the 27th. Those words, “less than 10 days,” bring up so many emotions! I’m excited, nervous, stressed and so much more! I can’t believe after all of the planning that our big day is finally this close. I have one more weekend of DIY projects with my BMs and then I’ll just have to let it go! Some of the little details won’t happen and that will be fine! No one will know and in the end we’ll be married! That is the most important thing! And as my wedding planner/friend has told me all along . . . “you’ve got the groom and the rest is just details.” :o) Best of wishes for your wedding on the 27th. I can’t wait to read about how everything goes.

Guilty Secret said...

We're thinking of using Union as a reading at our wedding... but there's a bit missing here. At the end it says: "For after today you shall say to the world - This is my husband. This is my wife."


Amy@Fiancé Meeting You Here said...

You brought tears to my eyes while I was at work! This is a beautiful reading!